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A practical, engaging and profound guide to making amends and learning how to forgive. By the New York Times bestselling author of Dance of Anger which has sold over 2 million copies sold.

This contains a woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships

Presents advice to married couples for maintaining a healthy, respectful, sane, and satisfying relationship with the help of short, easy-to-remember rules for different subjects and situations

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.

In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when: We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable. We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate. We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior. We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation. We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line." We are convinced that we've tried everything -- and nothing changes. Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly. Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.

The book explores the theme of deception, particularly in the context of women's experiences and perceptions. Upon its release, the author found that many women were reluctant to engage with the topic, often dismissing it with statements like "Well, I don't do deception." This response highlights a societal reluctance to confront the complexities of honesty and deceit in personal relationships, prompting a deeper examination of how these themes resonate with women's lives.

Exploring the impact of anxiety, fear, and shame, Harriet Lerner delves into how these emotions can dominate our lives, especially during times of tragedy and hardship. She offers insights on recognizing these feelings as uninvited guests that shape our experiences, aiming to empower readers to confront and manage their emotional challenges.

Exploring the transformative journey of motherhood, the author combines her insights as both a psychologist and a mother to share personal anecdotes that range from humorous to poignant. The narrative covers the entire spectrum of mothering, from the early days of birth or adoption to the challenges of an empty nest. Key lessons highlight the unpredictability of parenting, the futility of many worries, and the importance of unconditional love, imperfections included. This book offers a witty and heartfelt perspective on the complexities of the mother-child relationship.

Dr. Harriet Lerner offers insightful tools for navigating relationships with wit and wisdom. "Life Preservers" serves as a motivational guide for women, addressing a wide range of topics including work, creativity, intimacy, and family dynamics. With over 40,000 hardcover copies sold, it provides valuable strategies for overcoming challenges related to anger, friendship, loss, and personal well-being, fostering joy and integrity in various aspects of life.

In this bold look at women and the psychotherapists who work with them, Harriet G. Lerner, Ph.D., a nationally acclaimed expert and bestselling author, analyzes more recent feminist interpretations, critiques and challenges traditional notions of female psychology, and illustrates how current theory can be transformed into effective therapy. Combing superb scholarship with lively prose, Dr. Lerner makes psychoanalytic and family systems theory accessible to all women who have questioned the common yet enduring myths about their personalities and have sought a better understanding of themselves.